The Good Girl Gospel is the invisible belief system that convinces women to abandon the truest parts of themselves. It shapes what you believe about yourself, what you allow yourself to feel, and ultimately, how much of your own life you get to actually live. It gets passed down through religion, through family, through culture. And most of us absorb it before we are old enough to question a single word of it.

It costs us everything. Our relationship with God. Our potential. Our marriage. Our sense of self. And for most of us, we don’t even realize it’s happening until we wake up one day and we can’t remember who we are without it.

I have identified 24 lies the good girl gospel tells us. This guide names 10 of them, along with the permissions that break them and lead you to the true freedom God intended for you all along.